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 albeit i am making friend and getting out and about in the village plus the city. so im just in a bad mood because im not actually getting nything ive ever wanted. solitude was nice really. i needed  it. the road trip adventure was very memorable. but what ive wanted and dreamt of was a career, leading teams, being in the board room, having success. that has to wait now until the aferlife while i just learn instead new ways to ejoy ysekf and do it on repeat. maybe its not so bad.that my chronic illnesses and burnout won the war.