the way to success (it's a perspective)

I like to reframe everything I value as a success for me, even a sob story. Any effort leads to experience gained, fact, so it's always at the least going to be a success of developing or knowing or understanding. It's too easy to get mired in "I'm a failure!". But sometimes I think the effort was a success but I actually am a failure, I actually do like to think this from time to time. This is because it lends perspective and humility and a degree of humanity. The human condition is a trying game, after all.